Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. – Marianne Williamson
This ladies & gentlemen, was Marianne Williamson on what is our deepest fear
We all want ourselves to be heard – at work, at home, at the club. We want to be heard at different times differently but at all the times we want to speak our mind. After all, our success depends on how we speak our mind.
There are a few important things that can help you speak your mind at both work and home. For instance, if you bide your time and the time is right, or if you are confident enough or if you focus on quality talk rather than quantity talk etc.
For more details on how to speak your mind, and hence be heard check out this presentation:
Emails have become an integral part of our life and there are more emails in our inbox than we can handle right now. It becomes worse as grow in our career and life. In all this traffic, how does one get people to read your email and respond? How do you catch their attention when you are one among the many to send them an email?
As a popular CEO says, email habits are in need of “defluffing.”. What he means is that emails are just fluff…a phone call is pure and a better idea. The CEO goes on to say that one needs to write like a very busy person. Be concise and courteous – if we cut short our emails our words will be better understood.
Here are a few more tips which will ensure your email gets read and responded to:
The time when you email, matters
The time when you send the email matters a lot. For example the recipient may be idle in the morning and may respond immediately or if you send an email at 8.30 he/she may be in transit and take a quick browse while waiting at the traffic and forget about it. To get people to read your email and respond my recommendation will be to send them an email before 8.30 am or after 8 pm. If you can crack the email usage pattern of individuals, you are sure to get a response from them for your email.
Sending email on a weekend helps
I feel Monday is the worst time to send emails. On Monday people come into the office pumped up to accomplish a lot of things and hence your email will get a lot less time than what it would have got on other days. I strongly believe that an email sent in the weekend (to somebody who checks his (her) email on weekends) works the best because they have the whole weekend to respond.
Work hard on your email’s subject line
You may have cracked their email usage pattern but what is the point if the recipient doesn’t even open your email. This is why you need a killer subject line for your email – a line which forces the him (or her) to open the email. All recipients evaluate an email’s importance by its subject line so it is an important part of your email. Never ever just send an “Hi!”. Having said that, don’t just type in the whole email in the subject line. Keep the email’s subject brief, relevant and specific to the discussion.
Let the email be about them
This is one of the primary reasons why people don’t respond to cold emails – because 99% of all cold emails first talk about their companies (paragraphs after paragraphs) and then come to what they can do for me. By the time I reach that part of the email, I am bored and done with. For getting people to read and respond to your email make the email about them – In the first paragraph of the email itself tell them what you can do for them. How can they benefit by responding to your email. After that initial pitch, you can go ahead with what all your company does.
Use bullet points instead of paragraphs in your email
Nobody loves to read long emails. I for one, don’t read long, winding emails and hence don’t respond to them. The same holds true with busy CXOs, who have secretaries managing their email. This is the reason when you have a long email being planned it is better to use bullet points. This breaks down the problem (or the solution) for the email reader and empowers him (her) to respond.
Give the recipient time to respond to your email
I check my emails every ten minutes, but everybody doesn’t check their email that regularly. If you are sending an email, give them time to respond. Many don’t respond to their emails immediately. I don’t understand emails sent with the subject ‘Urgent” – if it was that urgent, shouldn’t you be picking up your mobile and calling them?
Always Send a follow-up if they didn’t respond to your email
95% of all the email responses happen within 24 hours of the email sent. If they didn’t respond within 24 hours, your email is as good as forgotten. This is why, you should always have a day of follow up planned just in case they didn’t respond to your email on first attempt.
eMail is a lovely tool. Use it judiciously. Happy connecting guys!
The early human beings didn’t have stress in their lives and hence didn’t have to worry about stress management. As our lives have become complicated, our need for stress management has increased manifold.
Before we go into stress management, let us try and understand stress better.
Stress is a normal psychological and physical reaction and can happen to anybody. Whenever we feel threatened our body is tuned in to release certain hormones which give us the “fight or flight” option – this is a stressed state. Today there is a need for stress management because this stressed state continues throughout the day.
Biologically, once the threat isn’t around, we are expected to come down to the normal state but that doesn’t happen anymore because of the various complexities in our life. Stress management is nothing but an attempt by you to bring down this alarm system at will, so you can chill and not be stressed.
Different types of stress
Acute stress is the short-term stress, which we sometimes put ourselves in for that adrenalin rush. For example, if you run a race and you are under stress to clock a good timing that would be an example of acute stress. Or getting onto a roller coaster knowing fully well that you will be under a lot of stress and will be screaming your heart. This kind of stress is fun and doesn’t last long enough to cause your health any issues. You don’t need to be worried about stress management here.
Chronic stress is a long-term stress and you can’t invoke this for fun like acute stress. Chronic stress also has long-term health effects and can kill you if you don’t resort to stress management immediately. Some of the affects of chronic stress are – memory loss, loss of appetite, depression and lowering of spatial recognition senses. Men seem to be more affected by chronic stress than the women.
What is stress management?
The various techniques and therapies available to help a man or a woman reduce their stress and get back to normal day-2-day living is known as stress management. Life provides a lot of challenges to every individual – challenges which are unique to the individual and hence put him (or her) through different types & levels of stress. Managing this stress and helping the individual maintain a healthy life is called stress management.
Stress management can happen in two ways – through self-help, which is what we would recommend for your first attempt at stress management. After all, stress management is all about taking charge of yourself, your thoughts, and your emotions.
The second way is where one takes help of health professionals well trained in stress management.
Identifying the source of stress
The first step of stress management is identifying what is stressing you? What is that one thing whose removal will reduce the stress in your life. Answering this question is very difficult because for most of us it is a combination of things which have driven us to seeking stress management help.
The contributors of stress aren’t always obvious. The reasons for your stress may sometimes be just you – for instance you may be working as a sales guy in a huge corporation. Let us say if you were bad at sales you will definitely be stressed about not doing your share of sales. So, there is no external factor responsible for your stress but it is you who needs to change – either by getting a non-sales job or by getting better at sales. A good part of the stress management for you in this case will be trying to find a new job.
Four sources of Stress
Each one of these sources may drive you to stress management experts.
Environmental Stress Sources:
Your five senses are constantly in touch with rest of the world and inputs they receive from the environment have the ability to put you under stress. For example, constant noise and honking in a traffic jam can stress you out.
Social Stress Sources:
This is a type of stress triggered by other events & individuals around you. For example, you may be stressed out due to a public speaking opportunity or a job interview. You may also be under a lot of stress due to a relationship gone bad or conflict with your boyfriend or some money-related issues.
Physiological Stress Sources
This kind of stress is due to physiological events in our body or with respect to our body – such as stress due to lack of sleep or lack of workout. Stress due to onset of adolescence, or onset of menopause, or onset of aging. Stress due to stomach cramps during menstrual cycles etc.
Cognitive / Emotional Stress Sources
For this kind of stress you are the biggest contributor because it is based on your thoughts. As explained while you were reading about chronic stress, our body decides to go on stress-mode when threatened and if we keep giving our body reasons to go into stress-mode often, we aren’t doing ourselves a favour. This is the biggest source, which pushes people to get into stress management.
What do you do today for stress management?
Many people don’t realize that they need to get stress management done from experts and end up doing their own stress management. This is usually done by taking up smoking, drinking alcohol, watching too much TV, taking pills, procrastination etc.
This is the wrong kind of stress management, definitely not the kind which will help reduce stress. There are much healthier ways to manage stress and live a happy normal life.
Stress Management Tip 1: Avoid the stress, which is in your control
Not all the stress will be in your control, but if it in your control, definitely avoid it. If you can’t say “No” and as a result end up with a lot of things to deliver, please learn to say “No.” If there is an individual who puts you under a lot of stress try and stay clear or him (or her). Trust us, nobody is worth more than the pain of going through stress management. If traffic stresses you or certain things stress you, stay away from them at any cost.
Stress Management Tip 2: Alter the stress situation
If you can’t avoid a stressful situation, as mentioned in stress management Tip 1, try and alter it. More often than not this means changing the way you behave or interact with individuals or environments around you. If something about somebody is putting you under stress, try and speak to them. Sometimes, if you assert and tell the person that you are under stress because of them, people back off – so not a bad idea to be assertive. Sometimes the stress is because of something of your own doing and that is right, alter your approach – start early from home, finish things on time, do whatever it takes so you don’t have to be stressed.
Stress Management Tip 3: Adapt to the stress situation
For example instead of getting caught in traffic jam every day and getting stressed about it, you can easily indulge in stress management by starting from your home early. Or better still focus on the positive and look at the time you spend in your car as a Personal Time, or as an opportunity to catch up with latest chartbusting music.
Stress Management Tip 4: Accept the stress situation
Things that you can’t change also have a tendency of putting you under stress…so be willing to accept it as it is – alter yourself or your attitude towards the stress source. Seek solace in your partner, your friends or your spouse and speak to them. Speaking helps relieve a lot of stress and helps you move forward in your stress management goals. Do remember that this is the most difficult tip because accepting your source of stress as it is will be difficult. If you can’t change the stressor, no point stressing over it…right?
Elders say “health is wealth,” which I think is a profound statement because if you have your health you have the world at your feet. You can achieve anything you want.
What if you were born with a disability? Just the thought scares you right? You don’t need to be born with a disability (or differently able, as it is polite to say) you can also contract a disability while you are a kid. Some of us even become differently abled after we grow up.
It is hard to imagine, isn’t it? I for one get very scared to think of growing up with a disability. Life isn’t the same. Or so we think? I wasn’t sure. That’s when I thought, let me try and figure out the top five people in the world who have lived with a health disability and yet proved to the World that they can kick some mighty ass.
Here goes my list of people who proved willpower is more important than health. People who proved to the rest of the world that it would take a lot more than a missing limb or some chemical imbalance (chemical locha) in the brain to hold them down. People who became famous in spite of their disability.
Hellen Keller had contracted a disability by her second birthday – she had become a deaf-blind. Imagine not being able to hear sounds and not being able to see things and being only two years old. The very thought scares the shit out of me.
In spite of this disability, Hellen Keller learned to read and write and guess what became the first deaf blind person to get a bachelor degree. Hellen Keller could have been happy with the bachelor degree but no. She then started working for disability rights, social welfare, women rights. She had such a strong personality that nobody could say a “No” to Hellen Keller. Today she is the most famous disable person ever.
Ludwig Van Beethoven, Disability: Deafness, (1770-1827)
Imagine being a World-renowned musician and losing your ability to hear sounds when at the age of 30. This is exactly what happened with Ludwig Van Beethoven – he contracted the disability at 30 and by the time he was 40 he lost his hearing completely. Not the right ability to lose for a musician.
For a normal musician, that would have been the end of the road but not for Ludwig Van Beethoven. He kept going and came up with his best work after 40 – and became famous in spite of his disability.
It is believed that Ludwig Van Beethoven had some special powers, which helped him create music at the speed and quality at which he did. His compositions have enthralled generations of music lovers and continue to inspire musicians of all age and genre. He is perhaps the most famous musician today and many don’t believe when told that he had a disability – that of hearing.
Franklin D. Roosevelt, Disability: Polio, (1882-1945)
Franklin D. Roosevelt is one of the most inspirational politicians to have lived. He was the President of US at the most difficult time possible – the time of the great depression and World War II. Franklin D. Roosevelt led the country out of it on both the occasions.
When he was 39 years old he was stricken with polio and was paralyzed waist down. Not a disability one can live with easily, especially if you have to lead the active life of a politician. Any normal person would have given up but not Roosevelt. He went on to be the President of United States of America from March 1933 to his death in April 1945 – for a record four terms. Sometimes he is also referred to as the wheelchair President.
Franklin D. Roosevelt is regarded as as one of the top three U.S. Presidents, in the company of the slavery abolisher Abraham Lincoln and George Washington. Surely, disability didn’t stop him from becoming famous.
Stephen Hawking, Disability: Lou Gehrig’s disease, (1942-Now)
Stephen Hawking was a regular 21-year science student at Cambridge when he was diagnosed with a motor neuron disease called Lou Gehrig’s disease. Lou Gehrig’s disease has gradually paralyzed Stephen Hawking and today the only muscle he can move in his body is his cheek muscle. He has a speech-generating device using which he communicates with rest of the World. This is perhaps the most dooming disability.
A normal man would have given up but Stephen Hawking was made of sterner stuff. In spite of his disability he went on and proved to the world that he can lead a life of his own. His books on various topics (such as A Brief History of Time, On the Shoulders of Giants, The Universe in a Nutshell etc) have made him a famous man. He is also an Honorary Fellow of the Royal Society of Arts and today teaches at University of Cambridge.
John Nash, Disability: Schizophrenia, (1928-Now)
John Nash is an American mathematician, who has struggled with Schizophrenia for a good part of his life and yet gone on to win a Nobel Prize for mathematics. John Nash is know for what he called “Nash Equilibrium” which has made Economics and Economic predictions easier.
Around the time he turned 30 he started behaving abnormally and complained that there were people following him around. He was diagnosed and sent to hospital for paranoid schizophrenia. As treatment he was administered insulin shock therapy as well. Thanks to schizophrenia, John Nash was no longer the brilliant mathematician he used to be. Instead, he became delusional and an irritant to people around him. In other words now he had a disability and he was yet to learn to deal with his disability.
Any normal man would have given up mathematics and gone and lived in a dark room in the basement, but John Nash was a lot tougher than that. With support from his wife, his friends, his colleagues and his own will to lead an exemplary life he overcame Schizophrenia and eventually won the Nobel price in 1994.
John Nash’s life was made into a movie titled A Beautiful Mind, a real tribute to a man who became famous in spite of his disability.
Arvind Kejriwal’s AAP which was launched in 2012 – just two and a half years back – has won 67 out of the 70 seats in Delhi Assembly elections. This means, he will have only a 3-member opposition in the assembly. Such a victory is unprecedented in the history of the country.
The question is, what worked for AAP and turned the dice in their favour? Or what didn’t work for BJP?
Presenting five lessons from Arvind Kejriwal’s victory in Delhi today.
A decisive & distinct leader always wins
During the Lok Sabha elections in 2014, Congress didn’t have a leader one could look up to. Narendra Modi filled in this yearning for leadership.
Modi had that pull during Lok Sabha elections and he continued with the same charisma for the Delhi elections. BJP’s problem was that even Arvind Kejriwal had an equal amount of magnetism. In a country bereft of political leadership both these men stood out as a beacon of hope. If Modiji aanewaale hain was the war cry during 2014 Lok Sabha elections, this time it was paanch saal Kejriwal.
Everything changed the moment Kiran Bedi was announced as the Chief Minister candidate for Delhi. Now Kejriwal wasn’t being compared to Modi but to Ms Kiran Bedi and this projected Arvind Kejriwal as the distinct & decisive leader beyond doubt.
He may not have the charisma of a Jawaharlal Nehru or an Indira Gandhi, or have the oratory skills of an Atal Bihari Vajpayee…but he sure stood out as a leader to put your bets on.
An individual’s or organization’s resilience is always rewarded
Last year…after being the Chief Minister of Delhi for 49 days, Arvind Kejriwal decided to resign. Ever since this decision to resign he and his party have taken a beating everywhere but that hasn’t affected Arvind Kejriwal’s resolve.
AAP stretched itself too thin during the Lok Sabha polls and 96% of their candidates lost their deposits. That didn’t disconcert Kejriwal. He kept his Aap team together and requested his party folks to stay connected to their roots – their constituencies.
Aap’s Delhi Election Campaign Committee consisted of 11 members, and was strapped for funds while BJP’s Delhi Election Campaign Committee consisted of 21 members and was flush with funds. Yet, Aap’s members remained resilient, which eventually paid off.
In life, what goes around comes around
In last year’s Lok Sabha election, Congress didn’t even win 10% of the seats and this Delhi election the same happened with BJP – a huge lesson to never rest on your laurels. Why would in just eight months, the people of Delhi bring BJP from its high of 46 percent votes to a low of just 33 percent – and give 67 out of 70 seats to AAP?
In a reflection of a true democracy, Arvind Kejriwal’s first words when he addressed after winning the elections were: “It is very scary, I am afraid because of the big verdict. The BJP and the Congress suffered because of their hubris; if we repeat their mistake the people of Delhi will teach us a lesson after five years.”
He also knows…if the folks of Delhi have given him a mandate, they can also take it away. What goes around comes around.
When you lose, there is always a second chance
Many of us lose heart at the first failure but Arvind Kejriwal and AAP didn’t. For a moment it did seem like his team will be broken apart and sent to the cleaners but he held it tight together.
In a profession where nobody apologizes he decided to do the unthinkable which ensured a second chance. His apology struck a chord with the people of Delhi after all he was the first politician to apologize for doing something wrong.
No problem if you fail the first time, there is always a second chance.
A good leader takes both autocratic & democratic decisions
A good leader doesn’t always go the autocratic route. A true leader knows the right mix of autocratic & democratic decisions and when to use what. One of the important decisions, which swayed the Delhi Election results, was appointment of Kiran Bedi as the Delhi CM candidate.
It is common knowledge that Narendra Modi and Amit Shah agreed on making Kiran Bedi the Chief Ministerial candidate even though the BJP cadre didn’t like it. A bad leadership model, if you ask us. Especially because the party cadres were expected to rally behind their leader.
If you live in Delhi, here is wishing you great days ahead. All the best!
Since everybody is looking for easy to implement tips on time management, here goes the list:
Plan it well
168 hours can be a lot of time if used correctly. Figure out where all this time goes, and you can get many things done. Smart folks plan their next day the night before. They chalk out what time they need to wake up, and schedule all their tasks. Having a schedule is the first tip on time management – it will keep you from going insane through a busy day.
Find out what works for you
Productivity apps won’t help you do more in less time. In short, they can’t make you productive. Smart people use apps to become productive but smarter people go the old fashioned way – they write it down with pen and paper. They feel it increased their commitment better than when using a cellular device. So figure out which gives you a feel of strong commitment. Writing or digital reminders.
Fix up priorities
Your time is limited so concentrating on priorities is the only way you can make things happen. You spend time on a task, you make progress. Even a little time spent will lead you somewhere! If you don’t prioritize there is no point on having even 100 tips on time management.
Small bits make it big
When you feel overwhelmed and want to give up. Breaking tasks down into smaller chunks is the best way to achieve more in the same time. Smart managers also feel that small steps make a big project easier to finish within the given time. You too can try this!
Use every bit of time
Learn to adjust. Every bit of time is valuable and never skip tasks if you feel you don’t have much time. Find something to do in every gap you get. This way you will actually be reducing your workload.
Rank your work
Prioritize your work and make a judgment call on what matters the most to you. That way you can both finish what is bothering you and what interests you within the time.
Take a break
Taking breaks in-between durations of hard work help people accomplish more. Be it a real task or something you want, you can get the dual advantage by taking a break from your chores and relaxing a bit.
Ever wondered what it would be like to see a conference call in real life? It would be an amazingly funny video.
The technical glitches, the background sounds (dog barking, kids screaming, food munching!) and not to mention missed connections – all of this can happen in a conference call…and it would be hilariously funny to witness a conference call in real life. This video below is exactly that – Watch this funny conference call video in real life.
Presenting the Funny Video: Conference call in real life
Indians are known to be masters of Jugaad. Just in case you didn’t know, Jugaad is also known as (or explained to non-Indians) as Frugal Innovation. That is, simple low-cost fixes. Please note that Jugaad is a concept and can be used in the case of a mechanical contraption as well as a political solution – just that jugaad has to be a quick fix, with little of no cost. There is a certain school of thought which believes that jugaad is always a short-term fix.
Outside of business schools and self-help books, the word jugaad is used to signify imagination or creativity to make existing things work (or work better) or to create new things with limited resources.
Jugaad is not a concept limited to India. The American version of a jugaad is a “hack.” Though “hack” as a concept has existed for a long time awareness for jugaad has seen a sudden rise in recent times in India. So much so that the jugaad mindset is being associated with the Indians.
Some believe that jugaad is a curse brought on the Indians, thanks to our huge population but bad infrastructural support and income distribution. They believe that the Indian “Jugaad” spirit is not something to be proud of because our ability to go for the jugaad will never allow us to build globally scalable products of high quality.
These non-believers say that for a small time entrepreneur living in a village with limited financial & physical resources jugaad makes sense but not for the country as a whole.
Checkout Best examples of Indian Jugaad below:
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People define success differently. For some it is the ability to spend time with family, for some it is a promotion, for some it is business trips abroad and for a good lot of people success is defined as money earned. In short, success can be either personal or professional and we are always looking to succeed.
In our attempt to succeed, we need to remain motivated and inspired the whole day, month, year long. There are only two ways to remain motivated – get motivated by the small success we gain on a daily basis and aspire for more success. Or to look up at people who have succeeded before us and see what their thoughts were on this ever-prevalent need amongst the humans – the need to be a success.
Because we all need regular inspiration from successful people, we have collated a good amount of quotes on success. We think these are the best quotes ever on success, and hope you agree with us:
Dhirubhai Ambani on success: “If you don’t build your dream, someone else will hire you to help them build theirs.”
W.C. Fields on success: “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. Then quit. No use being a damn fool about it.”
Bill Cosby on success: “In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.”
Frank Sinatra on success: “The best revenge is massive success.”
Bob Dylan on success: A person is a success if they get up in the morning and gets to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do.
Bill Cosby on success: I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.
General George S. Patton on success: I don’t measure a man’s success by how high he climbs but how high he bounces when he hits bottom.
Thomas A. Edison on success: “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
David Brinkley on success: “A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him.”
Mark Twain on success: “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.”
Vince Lombardi on success: “The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will.”
Katherine Dunham on success: “I used to want the words ‘She tried’ on my tombstone. Now I want ‘She did it.’”
Woody Allen on success: “Eighty percent of success is showing up.”
Marianne Williamson on success: “Success means we go to sleep at night knowing that our talents and ablities were used in a way that served others.”
Dalai Lama XIV on success: “Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.”
George Bernard Shaw on success: “Success does not consist in never making mistakes but in never making the same one a second time.”
Jerry Lewis on success: “I’ve had great success being a total idiot. ”
Criss Jami on success: “The biggest challenge after success is shutting up about it.”
W.P. Kinsella on success: “Success is getting what you want, happiness is wanting what you get”
Theodore Roosevelt on success: “It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.”
Winston S. Churchill on success: “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”
Abraham Lincoln on success: “I’m a success today because I had a friend who believed in me and I didn’t have the heart to let him down.”
Mark Twain on success: “All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence; then success is sure. ”
Bruce Lee on success: “The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.”
Did we miss out on any success quote which you may have wanted us to include in our “best quotes ever on Success” list? If yes, please leave it in the comments section and we assure you that we will include it and give you credit as well.
Henry Ford lived a life many can only dream of. Henry Ford was founder of the Ford Motor Company. He is responsible for taking automobile from the rich & making it a household name by revolutionizing mass production at Ford Motor Company.
Henry Ford’s quote on how a failure is an opportunity:
More Quotes by Henry Ford
Henry Ford on success: Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.
Henry Ford on finding remedy: Don’t find fault, find a remedy.
Henry Ford on success: If everyone is moving forward together, then success takes care of itself.
Henry Ford on a business: A business that makes nothing but money is a poor business.
Henry Ford on thinking: Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is probably the reason why so few engage in it.
Henry Ford on learning: Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.
Henry Ford on Quality: Quality means doing it right when no one is looking.
Henry Ford on Reputation: You can’t build a reputation on what you are going to do.
Henry Ford on Ability: Whether you think that you can, or that you can’t, you are usually right.
Henry Ford on Solutions: Most people spend more time and energy going around problems than in trying to solve them.
Ever had a sales guy for a friend? If yes, chances are he has spoken to you about annual sales conferences. If yes, chances are you know that he (or she) is really scared of these annual sales conferences. Both Sales guys and the non-sales guys will agree that this is exactly what happens in an annual sales conference. Presenting a funny take on Annual Sales Conferences:
How do I manage or fight my fear is a natural question to ask so you don’t need to be ashamed that you are reading this article.
Fear is an interesting emotion. It is one of those imagined emotions actually because fear almost always ends up being irrational. That is to say, fear almost always ends up being something imagined in our minds and hence fighting or managing fear is an easy task.
We face all kinds of fear in life – fear of failure at work, in relationships, in public. The list is endless. Before we proceed on how to manage and fight fear let us understand that fear was given to us so that we can survive from the elements that made up rest of the World. Just that in recent past, being thinking animals we have created our own fears, and stopped enjoying life. For example, my daughter runs away from a dog because of fear and hence isn’t bitten by the it.
Fear as an emotion was given to all living beings to ensure they stayed safe. Since human beings can think, we have started making irrational response to challenges we face. In humans alone, fear constricts our brain from thinking straight, confuses us and fear also makes us negative individuals.
As individuals and as groups of people we panic when in fear. In non-threatening scenarios when in fear our first reaction is to make sure our egos aren’t hurt and our image isn’t tarnished – like a bunch of losing footballers, who start playing aggressively to save face.
Fear also cripples our enjoyment of life because fear starts controlling us, not allowing us to reach our full potential in life. For example, fear of flying can result in you not attending meetings outside your city, or fear of public speaking will never allow you to present that perfect pitch to your board members and gain that promotion you so badly want.
If you know how to manage and fight this fear, sky becomes the limit for you.
Here are a few tips and tricks to fight fear. Even if you aren’t able to fight your fear, these tips will help you keep the fear inside of you and yet manage to live your life around it. So here is how to fight and manage fear:
Take your mind off fear
It is impossible to handle fear if you can’t take your mind off fear. When you are thinking of your fear, your hands are sweaty and you have your hair standing on your neck, your mind is all confused and doesn’t know how to react to the emotion called fear. So take some time off to strategize and think how you will fight it. Calm down, and relax. Distract yourself from fear and get into a better emotion – happiness perhaps. How does one get away from fear? If you love reading books, pick one up. If you love coffee, just sit on the porch with a coffee and a cookie. Whatever works for you – but get out of the emotion called fear so you can strategize on how you can fight it.
What’s the worst this fear can do to you?
Now that your mind is clear and you are off that emotion called fear, imagine the worst. Let us say your current fear was a public speaking you had to do in a week’s time….imagine what is the worst that can happen. You may forget your speech? The audience may sleep off? The audience may jeer you? Think of your fear and all that can go wrong. Now try to answer this question: “Will you be alive the day after your public speaking?”
If your answer to the above question is “Yes” then your fear is something that can be fought or managed. If you are going to be alive, the only other thing you should be worried about is a panic attack, which you need to learn to manage. There is enough information on the web to help you overcome panic attacks…lets focus on fear for this article.
Face your fear and get used to it
If you keep on avoiding your fears, you will find fear growing all around you. Face your fears, and get used to them little by little. For example, if public speaking is your fear…it makes great sense to join a public speaking club so that you get exposed to your fear on a weekly basis. If you get exposed to your fear that often, you will soon stop fearing it. If your fear is heights, start with small heights and get used to manage your fear. If your fear is speaking to girls, start with speaking to women colleagues, then move on to total strangers.
Don’t fear lack of perfection
Many of our fears are because we think we aren’t perfect. For example, even if I am a moderate public speaker because I don’t think I am perfect I will fear going out on the stage. This fear of not being perfect affects all situations so understanding that you can’t be perfect every time is a huge step forward in your fight against fear. Learn to live with 80% perfection and half of your fears will vanish. Remember life is already messy and there is no need to make it messier by introducing fear into it.
Talk about your fears to people you trust
Talk about your fears with your friends. In our experience friends and relatives are very useful in overcoming fear because most of the time they are with us when we are shivering in our pants. Sharing fears takes away the scariness of it. If you don’t have friends or relatives to share your fear with you can always call a local helpline which I am sure is available in your city.
Note: Never ever resort to alcohol or drugs to get over fear. Fear gets aggravated in such situations.
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